If you have to work at inner peace and calm in order to overcome environmental factors, so as to accept a non-optimal situation, at what point does that become unrealistic hard work?

Suffering in a situation we feel we are trapped in is not good. So how do we tell the difference between a situation where we are suppose to learn acceptance from, and one where we must work to extricate ourselves from?

“Should” we stay in a situation vs do we “want” to stay in a situation…