Work within constraints

I have been working hard to get the numbers of my business to look good, so my bank will extend my overdraft. This business is my dream. I am terrified that I may lose it. So I want to do everything right.

I need two casual workers to get things done to the level that will satisfy the bank. I have a meeting with them in a couple of month’s time.

My spouse flatly refuses to let me hire those workers, even though the numbers make sense. My family have been increasingly dismissive of my efforts. Sometimes I think they are laughing at me behind my back.

I am already working very long hours, and the progress is slow. I can feel the fear rising. If only I can get those casual workers in to help me. I don’t think I can cope with failing; especially when everyone already expects me to fail.


Life seldom conforms to our ideals.

Our identity can be strongly tied to our concepts of success and failure. At the end of the day, we are the ones defining those concepts for ourselves.

Sometimes, we can only do what we can, with what we have, at any given moment in time.


The client defined their own success, separate from the bank’s decision and familial expectations. They accepted the reality of their situation. They chose to do what they can reasonably do in the available time and with the resources they have.

They implemented several changes to how they were working to increase their effectiveness.

They also put in place self-care activities to maintain their psychological wellbeing.